Having the “Money Talk” With Your Spouse
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Discussing financial matters with your husband or wife can be a tense situation, especially if your financial situation isn’t too good. If your partner has a different approach to financial matters from you, or even if they’re similar but have different priorities for money you save, then there is bound to be some conflict. Trent at the Simple Dollar has some talk tactics that should help your discussion work out better, including:
- Start off by talking about your financial goals and ideas for the future
- Focus on one issue per conversation (reducing spending, or retirement planning)
- Don’t make any accusations without admitting to some of your own faults at the same time
- Be realistic with expectations, and how much change you can expect - both from yourself and from your partner
- Decide on precise tasks for each of you to do before the next conversation (for example, researching retirement plan options)
- Consider what financial or material sacrifices you are willing to make (before you start talking)
- Don’t hide any spending secrets or unpaid bills from your partner - put all the financial story on the table
- If you have trouble talking about it calmly together, consider having the conversation in another way, such as by email
If you're new here, you may want to subscribe to my RSS feed. Want more frequent updates follow me on Twitter. Thanks for visiting!
Discussing financial matters with your husband or wife can be a tense situation, especially if your financial situation isn’t too good. If your partner has a different approach to financial matters from you, or even if they’re similar but have different priorities for money you save, then there is bound to be some conflict. Trent at the Simple Dollar has some talk tactics that should help your discussion work out better, including:
- Start off by talking about your financial goals and ideas for the future
- Focus on one issue per conversation (reducing spending, or retirement planning)
- Don’t make any accusations without admitting to some of your own faults at the same time
- Be realistic with expectations, and how much change you can expect - both from yourself and from your partner
- Decide on precise tasks for each of you to do before the next conversation (for example, researching retirement plan options)
- Consider what financial or material sacrifices you are willing to make (before you start talking)
- Don’t hide any spending secrets or unpaid bills from your partner - put all the financial story on the table
- If you have trouble talking about it calmly together, consider having the conversation in another way, such as by email





